Dealing With Post-Wedding Depression
For brides who have devoted the better part of a year of their lives to planning their wedding, there?s an unavoidable comedown once the big day is over. The gaping hole left after the much-planned main event is over can leave even the most balanced of brides with a touch of the post-wedding blues. So what?s a wedded girl to do?
If you find yourself feeling sad after the wedding or honeymoon, don?t worry ? you?re not alone. It?s natural to get swept away in the blissful tide of wedding planning, and it?s normal to feel a little lost after that wedding wave rolls out again. Up to 80% of brides report feeling ?lost?, ?purposeless? and ?sad? after their wedding day or honeymoon.
If you find yourself struggling to get back to normal after your wedding, here are a few tips to help you beat those post-wedding blues.
Don?t try to plan your relationship
Try not to transfer your wedding planning persona into your marriage. Some brides carry their passion for planning into their new marriage by trying to plan perfect meals, keep the perfect home, and have the perfect relationship. Brides beware; you can?t plan your marriage like you planned your wedding day, so let go of your ideas about perfection and embrace your relationship and your husband, warts and all.
Talk about it
Recognizing that you?ve got the post-wedding blues and taking the steps to talk about it can help to lighten your emotional load. Talk about your feelings to your husband, your friends and family. Let them know how you?re feeling and ask for their support ? they?ll want to help you get back to normal.
Get back to the things you love
You had to make a lot of time in your life for all that wedding planning; now that the wedding is over, you can take that time back! Get back to taking that spin class twice a week, reschedule your weekly lunch date with your girlfriends and return to your pre-wedding routines. Better yet, make new habits by joining a book club, gym or starting a new weekly activity with your husband.
If you?re at the beginning of the wonderful journey called wedding planning, be aware that the bridal bubble can take over your life and leave you feeling empty when it?s all over. Be realistic: after you say ?I do?, your life with your new husband begins. Be ready for a few changes and don?t forget that marriage is a major transition and something that will take some getting used to.
Christie MacLachlan is dreading her fiancées bachelor party. When she is not trying to convince him to watch yet another wedding-themed movie, she writes for yourwedding101.com ? an informative and insightful wedding planning guide with information about wedding speeches, ethnic wedding traditions, top honeymoon destinations and more.
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